We can seem to freak out and get jittery or withdraw.We can’t help it, our bodies and minds are remembering the abuse. Please be patient; we’re trying and want you to understand it’s not you, it’s our past.No matter the type of abuse, the abused person suffers damage to their self-esteem.Our abusers were critical of us, and undermined our self-confidence.Sometimes we tell ourselves what our abusers told us, like “you’re no good”, or “how could anyone love you”, or “I hit you because you deserve it.” We need time to get over the damage to our self-esteem.You can help by understanding that sometimes when we are depressed it can be because we are hearing these thoughts.
First, I knew I had to look deep into why my self-esteem was so low.
I only saw what I wanted to see and denied the rest. So, I didn’t have huge faith in my instincts or my judgement. In them, he calls her his ‘baby girl’ and his ‘princess’.