While you’re checking your racism, think about the way you talk to other guys who aren’t just like you.“Older men are really hot” is nowhere near as serious as racism, and it might seem like a compliment, but this guy doesn’t want to be defined by his age, any more than you’d expect someone to fancy you because of your postcode or shoe size.No matter your gender or sexual orientation, dating can seem like a minefield.Sometimes we meet the wrong people, choose a bad venue or fall head over heels with someone who just wants to be friends.The Guyliner has been writing about gay dating since 2010 and is also a columnist at Gay Times Magazine.
Not only is this far too prescriptive, you also run the risk of coming across as overly negative.
As far as you’re concerned, this is Day One – only wasteland came before it.
Yes, you know what you like, but if you’re looking for a relationship, it’s not just about what goes where and who’ll be standing on their head or whatever.
Having fixed ideas of what you want – which usually boil down to looks and little else – could be standing in your way of meeting some great guys.
It’s time to think outside the box, look past the beards or muscles, and take chances.
There was a time when gay dating was an IRL affair, based around your local gay bar or well known cruising spot.