Do the things you did the first year you were dating.As the months and years roll on, we tend to slink into our proverbial sweatpants and get lazy in our relationship.The crux of this tool lies in the fact that you must pick a specific time to revisit the conversation (I.e.10 minutes from now, pm on Tuesday etc.) so that closure can be achieved.11. In most disagreements, we communicate from the “Top Layer,” which are the obvious emotions such as anger, annoyance and the like.Remind yourself that you will almost always “get there” after the first few minutes and that an intimate interaction of any kind builds connection and elevates your mood and health.Bear in mind that you are never required to say “yes.” If you truly don’t feel it, the best thing you can do is to postpone. Life and work distractions can become paramount in our minds and that leaves little time or energy for our partner.Keep in mind that “asking for what you want” extends to everything from emotional to sexual wants.3. Think about who your mate really is and what excites him or her (both physically and emotionally).
Trim the fat and build your hottest relationship for life!” You’ll be amazed at the answers you’ll get, with the added benefit of gaining greater insight into your significant other. Create a weekly ritual to check in with one another.It can be short or long but it begins with asking each other what worked and didn’t work about the previous week and what can be done to improve things this coming week.Accept that your mate feels hurt and from this place, a real apology can have a significant impact.
When you love your partner and hurt them (intentionally or not) you can always legitimately apologize for the pain you caused regardless of your perspective on what you did or didn’t do.Additionally, use this opportunity to get on the same page with your schedules, plan a date night and talk about what you would like to see happen in the coming days, weeks, and months in your relationship. What might change in your relationship if both you and your partner committed to increasing the behaviors you each find sexy and limiting those that aren’t? “Sexy” can certainly refer to bedroom preferences, but it also represents what excites us about our mate in our day-to-day lives.