I realize that many salespeople are still evaluated on metrics like "calls dialed" or "emails sent," which is a big part of the problem and not their fault.
However, "just following up" with people for the sake of following up, without empathy or strategy, is incredibly annoying and very ineffective.
Whether you're dating or in sales, you need to test enough things to figure out what strategies work for you overall, as well as which techniques and tactics will work with different people, as not everyone will be the same.
“Screw this small talk bullshit, let’s get right to face to face!
It’s not even like they’re thinking about it, they just blabber on about their job or favorite movies, like your grandmother or something. The maximum emails one person can send in an online dating exchange is five. Any more than that and you might as well sign up for summer camp, because you’ve got a pen pal, my friend. The ideal email exchange before asking for a date is three messages.
You write her three times, she writes you back three times. That is the exact amount of communication required to know your partner is delightful, not a psycho, and there’s a bit of juice between you.
It shows them that you want to learn more about them, instead of just being in love with yourself.
You never know when it might just not be the right timing for someone, or if they have objections or deal breakers you might not have appropriately addressed.
By Adelle Waldman But be careful not to be lulled into habits that will undermine your online dating experience.Remember, the goal here is not have to an amazing online correspondence, it’s to have an amazing first date.So leaving the other person wanting more, a little curious about you and your story is what it’s all about.It’s what people say when they’re trying to sound “no nonsense.” Unfortunately, to me all it sounds like is a waste of time. Does she use the word “yowzers,” thereby nullifying her interesting/funny/smart-ness?
And, perhaps most importantly, is she into the exchange, or do they just seem to be going through the motions? And why aren’t these women more afraid for their safety? Because I have recently begun Kenpo Karate gym classes, and my instructor only rarely laughs at me anymore. Write and write and write, until you’re absolutely certain this person is the one for you? You know how you can miss your window with someone by going on too many dates without sealing the deal? Perhaps it’s thought of as progressive, as the sign of a modern dater, one who wants to eschew email chatter and head right for the first date.