A senior editor at Fast Company, Feifer met his wife Jennifer Miller, a freelance journalist and author, through Ok Cupid after narrowing his search criteria to two requirements: “Jewish” and “journalist.”Feifer and Miller told me they didn’t start using Ok Cupid with the hopes of finding their soulmates.Instead, both joined the site after ending long-term relationships and moving to a new city without many friends.They both used the site to meet more people and go on more dates, while using their limited free time efficiently.But even if algorithms aren’t the answer, there’s no doubt that online dating has led to successful relationships — my own included.The majority of the daters I interviewed (and Slater, too) at some point referred to online dating as a tool, and that’s just what it is.A dating site is not a magic “fix” for your dating problems.“I guess maybe the promise of online dating is that it allows you to get out and have those experiences and make those mistakes and hopefully learn a lot from them,” said Slater. is to get [them] out there and get them to socialize.” Sure, you might encounter some horrific experiences — but hopefully you’ll learn from them and those lessons will benefit your search for a partner in the long run.“Even if I had married someone that I had met through a friend or whatever, online dating still would have been fun,” said Feifer.
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“[Sites like] Ok Cupid give people a mechanism to combat the anxiety of being single,” said Ana B., 24, of New York City.
“Maybe it’s not the best means to the end of finding the best relationship, but it gives people a way to do something about their situation.
Valentine’s Day was approaching, and this city of more than eight million people was feeling oddly lonely.
With some goading from a friend — who somehow convinced me that the stigma against online dating was no more — I joined Ok Cupid and started scanning the thousands of matches that popped up on my screen.
While many dating sites claim the ability to find your perfect match, social scientists aren’t buying it.