She’s right to suspect discontentment with the habitual mass exodus into the world of consequence-less fun.A 2012 study found that fully 76% of Duke students want to be in a committed romantic relationship.As fewer people enter into such relationships, doing so becomes increasingly unusual, providing still further reasons to retain the status quo.When I was a first year, I looked at the crowd at Shooters and saw that people were free—free to shed inhibitions, to give into desires they usually kept hidden, to dance like they do in their bedrooms, and sing like they do in their bathrooms.We gave participation trophies at the end of every season and received certificates with a specially-designed compliment for each person. Yet, what my peers do not realize – or cannot handle – is that rejection is a necessary part of forging a romantic relationships.In short, we found ways to couch messages of failure or inadequacy. Social Media Millennials also thinks about our public personas so much more than previous generations. These days one third of marriages start with a few clicks or a swipe.And even easier to forget to wonder how it's changed things when it comes to romantic relationships.
The other day, a friend of mine remarked that she’d love to interview people as they waited in the long entrance line to see how they felt about their upcoming few hours of sweat-filled DFMO (dance floor make outs) and possible ventures to a foreign dorm room.
In my four years of college, I know exactly one woman who has asked a man out on a date.
For me, it’s something I know I should do, but the thought is unpleasant.
Ignoring people you hooked up with at Shooters when encountering them on campus is a quintessential Duke experience.
If the oft-talked-about college “hook-up culture” could be embodied by a place, it would be Shooters.
Yet the study found that only 39% reported that they were— a number of my peers expressed doubt that the number was even that high.