If I really like a person — in a romantic way or not — I tend to be aloof and avoid eye contact.I come across as being bored or uninterested, but I’m actually just having an anxious episode.If you find the dating scene nerve-racking, then why not build up your confidence by going on a few practice dates? A first date is definitely not the time to try out a new hairstyle or makeup look.The mere possibility that it will all go wrong will do enough to your stress levels. Choose something that makes you feel comfortable but confident.My hands were shaking so I couldn’t reach for my glass of wine, in case he’d notice. Fortunately, he turned out to like me for exactly who I was. My experiences have given me a lot of insight into which strategies help — and which strategies definitely don’t help — when it comes to finding a meeting point between an active dating life and living with social anxiety. I don’t mean admit that you have social anxiety as soon as you meet.At this point, he bent down to tie his shoelace, during which time I literally downed half my glass. I eventually told him about having social anxiety (while locked in a hotel bathroom on vacation … I mean be honest about the venue you’d be most comfortable in.Those were the magical words I uttered to my now-husband Dan when we first met.It didn’t help that he initially went in for a hug, whereas I’m firmly a handshake person.
a face-to-face interaction; however, it doesn’t make it any easier.
After all, a first date is essentially just an extremely personal work interview — except with cocktails (if you’re lucky).